by Raymond » Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:37 pm
Debbie,
What you are going through is something most of all go through. And although some of us have played for quite awhile is happens ocassionally to some when we play with somebody we admire, etc, etc.
Like you mentioned, CONFIDENCE......(We have talked about this in some posts that we have discussed the "psychological effects of playing). Very important is that when you play with somebody and/or in public you feel you are up to the tasks. (Believe me, Vodka will help with some but eventually it will not work).
You do not have to be "top" in everything to play along with other people or with public. If you have the confidence that you will be able to do the parts you are supposed to, you should not have problems. Very important because the human mind works that if you accomplish "little things" your confidence will build up and prepare you to be ready for other challenges.
Regarding the point before....step in only in situations and/or gigs you feel you will be able to perform. Be careful with other percussionists that tend to kill people's mind if you do not play like they want...You have to recognize when to play and with who to play.... Nevertheless, step in ocassionally in gatherings or gigs you have to be able to when you could play or if you should play so it will not affect your mind...
Relax, breath, breath, breath....If you are not relaxed when you play in situations that you could have a little pressure, ie, playing with great musicians or the ones that critize others, you will not perform even things you could do...
Watch others and see what they do and prepare yourself to step in or volunteer to play...Take challenges once in a while and play in situations that you might not have all the confidence but if you do well your confidence will increase and will motivate you to continue to improve...
Playing in a band or group what you have to do to not feel nervous is do what actors are told.....There is a "fourth wall" when you play on stage and is the public.....Forget about them and play without even noticing that fourth wall...Again, confidence here too applies...If you feel you could do something you will do it well, if not...you have to go to the drawing board and come back when you feel confident...Playing in "uncomfortable" situations will not help you at all...
Is not easy but is achievable...Is a mind game.....
My five cents here! I hope this helps!
Saludos!